Sometimes, a guy would do just about anything to get into your pants. So how can you tell if he’s being real or he just wants to sleep with you?
Not all that glitters is gold. There are times when you think you’ve found the real deal, when in fact, you’re faced with a fake. Whether it’s a fake Fendi, a fake friend or a fake orgasm, the hype can sometimes make you want to believe that it’s the real thing.
Sadly, some men have ways of faking their devotion to you, but only for the sole purpose of getting into your pants. A lot of women can fall for the sweet words, the little gifts and the promises of forever, only to see him scurrying away the moment she sleeps with him.
How to know if he’s faking love to have sex with you?
We’re not here to make you lose faith in men. But we can’t just sit back and watch as women are manipulated, tricked and lied to by men who just want to get some action. Below are some ways to spot a guy that only wants to hit it and quit it.
#1 He never takes you out on a real date.
One thing a guy that is serious about you does is take you out on dates. Real dates. If you’re currently talking to a guy or hooking up with a guy who never once has asked you out on a real date, this is a huge red flag. Asking you to meet up for drinks at 9pm doesn’t count as a date.
When a guy really likes you, he wants you to know, and he wants to spoil you and show you off. If he’s not taking you to dinner, or lunch, not even once, you might want to reconsider wasting any more of your time with him.
#2 He never sleeps over or lets you stay over.
If you’ve ever seen the movie Bridesmaids, then you are familiar with the scene when Kristin Wiig’s character and John Hamm’s character have just hooked up, and she wakes up the next morning realizing it’s the first time he’s let her stay the night, only for him to tell her he didn’t mean for her to and that he wants her to leave, because he has a busy day. If the guy you’re talking to is like this, then he’s not serious about you.
#3 He never communicates with you during the day.
When you’re in a healthy relationship and the guy you’re dating actually cares about you, then he will care enough to communicate with you and see what you’re doing, during the day and at night. I don’t mean he needs to check in with you or you with him 24/7, but he should be doing something as simple as sending you a text or calling you on your lunch break, just to let you know he cares.
If you’re currently hooking up with a guy or talking to a guy who never once actually calls you or checks in with you during the day, and the only time you hear from him is usually on the weekend or late at night, then the reality is he’s not serious about you, but he does enjoy having sex with you.
#4 He’s only a night caller.
If the guy you’re seeing only calls you late at night, and never during the day. And when he does call, it always involves him wanting you to come over, he’s not actually in it for love. He doesn’t actually want to be with you, unless it’s under the sheets. If you want to be a hookup, then fine, keep seeing him after dark. But if you want real relationships, real love, and real feelings in your life, it’s time you give him back to the wolves.
#5 He never introduces you.
A guy who really wants to be with you will be proud of you, take you on dates, and will want to introduce you to his family and friends. When a guy really likes you, he’ll make it a point to introduce you to anyone you guys might run into when you’re out together. If you’re always referred to as “just a friend,” or you never even meet anyone he knows, then you’re just a hookup he’d rather keep in the dark.
#6 He’s uninterested in your family or friends.
If the guy you’re currently spending time with doesn’t care to hear anything about your family, your friends, or the story about your family dog, it’s safe to say he only cares about hooking up with you.
#7 He always wants to just hook up.
If and when you do hang out with your guy, and the only thing he ever wants to do is hook up, then you should probably realize this is a huge red flag. It’s great to hook up and be romantic with someone you like, but if your guy only wants to hook up with you and never do anything else, ever, it’s time to accept the fact he’s just not that into you at all. If the only thing your guy ever mentions involves you two, naked and getting it on, it’s time you get loose of the loser!
#8 Alcohol is always involved.
As I’ve said before, if the guy you’re seeing invites you to meet up for drinks and never actually takes you out on a real date, then he’s not interested in being anything other than f*ck buddies. If the only times he actually does ask you to hang out in a public setting involves meeting up at a bar, or anything involving alcohol, then once again, realize these red flags and take them for what they are: signs he isn’t interested in you other than hooking up.
#9 You always initiate.
There is nothing sexy about desperation. I understand that we all want love and to be loved in return. Unfortunately, one way you will never get what you actually want is if you’re desperate. If you are constantly the one asking to hang out, or initiating hanging out by dangling having sex, then of course he’ll want to hang out with you, because you’re more enjoyable for him to get off to than his right hand.
If you are always the one asking to hang out, you look desperate, and of course, he considers you as an easy lay since when you do hang out, you always have sex. If he’s never the one calling up and asking you to hang out, stop being so desperate and wasting your time on this guy. He’s not worth it.
#10 He doesn’t want you to be friends on social media.
In today’s society, what people see on social media are often fairly accurate representations of who they are in real life. And if the guy insists on not being friends on social media, then it’s a pretty blunt way of saying he doesn’t really want you in his life… at least as far as other people know.
Most of the time, we already know the answers to our questions, especially when it comes to relationships and doubts. We tend to ignore what we already know, seeking answers to our questions elsewhere, in hopes that maybe we’ll get a different answer, or hear what we want to hear, instead of what we need to hear.
The reality is that no matter how many times you ask yourself the same question, or how many people you seek advice from; the answer will usually be the same, always. If you have doubts about the guy you’re currently seeing, and thinking he might not be into you as much as you are into him, you’re probably right.
Don’t be the kind of woman who mistakes sex and intimacy for love. Men can fake it just as well as a woman can fake an orgasm. If you have doubts about whether the guy you’re seeing is really into you, check for these telltale signs.
— Charley ReidLovePanky