My friend, Lola thinks as a girl, keeping a boy as her best friend is one of the best things a girl can have. To me, it is not and in fact, it doesn't have to be. Hey! I have my reasons.
Apparently, most girls want a boy as their best friends. Having a man who isn’t really your ‘Man’ or your ‘Boo’ is quite fashionable and cool for ladies. A boy BFF may be your backbone, help you understand how guys really works. Tell you things you aren’t supposed to know about guys and at the end of the day, you smile and say ‘It’s all good!’
However, it is not really as simple as it seems.
For a start, you meet this great guy, probably in school or at work and it turns out that he becomes your best friend. You like being around him and he seems to like you too. And the hilarious part happens to be that neither of you have a titillating feeling for each other. It’s just on a fuzzy and platonic ground.
Probabilities are that you might have found yourself a guy who is either too timid or confused about his intentions. The sincere fact is that no guy would ‘love’ to remain on the ‘friend zone’ with an attractive girl.
1. Guys rarely cuddle without an erection
Most girls like body contact with their friends, men don’t! So, when a guy cuddles up any girl probably when seeing a movie or just hanging out and peradventure hands are in close proximity to any of the girl’s girly parts or your boy part and boom!!! there is an erection. Can you handle it? Will you be comfortable, knowing that your BFF arouses each time you get comfy with him?
2. When your BFF has a buff?
It is a natural force for boys to like girls and vice versa. So, you may have gotten yourself a boy BFF, but as the relationship grows, he finds himself getting several attentions from many other girls. There is a probability that you will start desiring him a lot more, more intense than just as friends.
When it turns out that he is really that great with being your BFF and doesn’t show any interest in you, it bounces right at your face like a diss. It will temper with your self-esteem and confidence to attract another guy especially when he is ‘Hot’.
3. Love will gradually stroll in
Believe it or not, with all the late night calls and chats, sharing of a bottle of drink, love is bound to stroll into the relationship. There is a great possibility that you may falling in love with each other. But the sad part is that, it starts with one person. The person will definitely be afraid to speak up in other not to ease the relationship from existence (which sometimes is either the best option or the worst). However, if love doesn’t set in, sex will.
4. What happens with other guys?
What happens with other guys is another thing you should know. Some guys do not like to date a girl who has a boy BFF. This is a case where you see a guy get jealous. Naturally, your new boyfriend will hate your BFF and it would not be so cool for the relationship. He may seem to understand after your series of ‘He is just my BFF’, but he never gets over it.
Don’t be surprised that your BFF may actually take advantage of the complicated situation by proving to be the better man. Trust me; every man wants to be the better man.
5. Having a Boy BFF is just complicated
A boy BFF is beautiful at first, but it doesn’t end the way it was planned. There are a lot of complications. You either fall in love with each other or one person is left with the painful experience of unrequited love.
Boy BFF is worth trying and fashionable, but at the price they come, it’s a lot better to just date them and get on with the happiness. So before you grab a guys hand and strike him with the post of a BFF, think twice. Be sure you can handle any form of result you get from it.
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Apparently, most girls want a boy as their best friends. Having a man who isn’t really your ‘Man’ or your ‘Boo’ is quite fashionable and cool for ladies. A boy BFF may be your backbone, help you understand how guys really works. Tell you things you aren’t supposed to know about guys and at the end of the day, you smile and say ‘It’s all good!’
However, it is not really as simple as it seems.
Your Everyday Life and your BFF
You should know that men are not cut out for women’s gossip, about the latest fashion wears, ladies kind of diet, neither are they out there to make list of those they aren’t supposed to talk to. So, peradventure you find yourself in the company of that great guy who has a screechy unsullied intention in mind. Be sure you are ready.For a start, you meet this great guy, probably in school or at work and it turns out that he becomes your best friend. You like being around him and he seems to like you too. And the hilarious part happens to be that neither of you have a titillating feeling for each other. It’s just on a fuzzy and platonic ground.
Probabilities are that you might have found yourself a guy who is either too timid or confused about his intentions. The sincere fact is that no guy would ‘love’ to remain on the ‘friend zone’ with an attractive girl.
5 Things you must know
If you did find yourself that great guy who hasn’t advanced to you sexually, there are a number of things you need to know.1. Guys rarely cuddle without an erection
Most girls like body contact with their friends, men don’t! So, when a guy cuddles up any girl probably when seeing a movie or just hanging out and peradventure hands are in close proximity to any of the girl’s girly parts or your boy part and boom!!! there is an erection. Can you handle it? Will you be comfortable, knowing that your BFF arouses each time you get comfy with him?
2. When your BFF has a buff?
It is a natural force for boys to like girls and vice versa. So, you may have gotten yourself a boy BFF, but as the relationship grows, he finds himself getting several attentions from many other girls. There is a probability that you will start desiring him a lot more, more intense than just as friends.
When it turns out that he is really that great with being your BFF and doesn’t show any interest in you, it bounces right at your face like a diss. It will temper with your self-esteem and confidence to attract another guy especially when he is ‘Hot’.
3. Love will gradually stroll in
Believe it or not, with all the late night calls and chats, sharing of a bottle of drink, love is bound to stroll into the relationship. There is a great possibility that you may falling in love with each other. But the sad part is that, it starts with one person. The person will definitely be afraid to speak up in other not to ease the relationship from existence (which sometimes is either the best option or the worst). However, if love doesn’t set in, sex will.
4. What happens with other guys?
What happens with other guys is another thing you should know. Some guys do not like to date a girl who has a boy BFF. This is a case where you see a guy get jealous. Naturally, your new boyfriend will hate your BFF and it would not be so cool for the relationship. He may seem to understand after your series of ‘He is just my BFF’, but he never gets over it.
Don’t be surprised that your BFF may actually take advantage of the complicated situation by proving to be the better man. Trust me; every man wants to be the better man.
5. Having a Boy BFF is just complicated
A boy BFF is beautiful at first, but it doesn’t end the way it was planned. There are a lot of complications. You either fall in love with each other or one person is left with the painful experience of unrequited love.
Boy BFF is worth trying and fashionable, but at the price they come, it’s a lot better to just date them and get on with the happiness. So before you grab a guys hand and strike him with the post of a BFF, think twice. Be sure you can handle any form of result you get from it.
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